I feel like I started a war
Julian can be whoever anyone would like him to be. This is Animal Crossing for goodness sake
You're right, but you didn't start a war, so don't worry about it. It's my fault.
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You're right, but you didn't start a war, so don't worry about it. It's my fault.
MisstreneDelta
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That is fine. I am dreadfully sorry for you to think that I was "attacking" you on anything, when all I was doing just merely stating my opinion, as I am pretty sure I am allowed to do just that. Sorry if i have offended you in any way, though, since it is only an opinion, I have no idea why it did. I am also sorry that i didn't have time to read the 50 million posts on everything you say as I do not have the time to be bothered with it. Anyways, I am done here as well. Farewell!
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^ I believe ACE's point is that the matter had been mostly resolved when you brought the initial post that caused it back up again without factoring in the most recent posts on the subject. Don't fret over it though.
On the topic of possibly homosexual villagers - Marshal keeps shipping himself with everyone regardless of gender. I love the smug personality type!
On the topic of possibly homosexual villagers - Marshal keeps shipping himself with everyone regardless of gender. I love the smug personality type!
MisstreneDelta
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^ I believe ACE's point is that the matter had been mostly resolved when you brought the initial post that caused it back up again without factoring in the most recent posts on the subject. Don't fret over it though.
On the topic of possibly homosexual villagers - Marshal keeps shipping himself with everyone regardless of gender. I love the smug personality type!
Yes! I agree! I should have continued to read but I was so tired last night that I had no time lol I hope he understands though that it was only an "opinion" and nothing more and that I am sorry for making him feel threatened :/ I will definitely try to read more posts next time to avoid such a conflict haha
As for the smug personality, I agree it is very cute! I LOVE my smug personalities, hence why I have Colton, Kyle (and hopefully soon!) Julian! lol x3
Stevey Queen
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New topic. How did you come out to your parents/friends?
My dad use to threaten me if I was gay, that he would kill me. So I grew to be afraid of him and hate him. One day when he was yelling at me for God knows what, he left for a bit and my mom asked me why I was so afraid of him. I told her I'm gay and about his death threats. She didn't really like it I guess but she was like "whatever. I can't change it." Better than nothing, I guess. A year later my dad confiscated my phone where I was in the middle of a texting conversation where I was kinda flirting with my crush. He read all my messages and came in yelling, "Stephen, are you gay?!" I figured to just tell the truth. He freaked out but obviously he didn't kill me. Also he didn't hit me, which was a surprise considering his violent abuse record like choking me when I was 5 because I pronounced 14 like 13, or how he beat me because I said "sexy" to some girl when I was 6 when I didn't even knew what it meant. The argument lasted like 2 days. Sometime down the road, he asked me if I liked girls yet. Like you can change.. I decided to lie though so now my family thinks I'm straight. And for a couple of years, I tried to be. But it didn't work out. I'll tell them again when I invite them to my wedding. If that ever happens.
My friends accepted it for the most part. In fact, a lot suspected it since I got called a f*g a lot. In middle school and some of the high school, people would ask a lot of questions like "why are you gay?" and "how did you realize you like men?". They were just really annoying. Like why are you straight? Nowadays, people will just say cool if I come out.
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My dad use to threaten me if I was gay, that he would kill me. So I grew to be afraid of him and hate him. One day when he was yelling at me for God knows what, he left for a bit and my mom asked me why I was so afraid of him. I told her I'm gay and about his death threats. She didn't really like it I guess but she was like "whatever. I can't change it." Better than nothing, I guess. A year later my dad confiscated my phone where I was in the middle of a texting conversation where I was kinda flirting with my crush. He read all my messages and came in yelling, "Stephen, are you gay?!" I figured to just tell the truth. He freaked out but obviously he didn't kill me. Also he didn't hit me, which was a surprise considering his violent abuse record like choking me when I was 5 because I pronounced 14 like 13, or how he beat me because I said "sexy" to some girl when I was 6 when I didn't even knew what it meant. The argument lasted like 2 days. Sometime down the road, he asked me if I liked girls yet. Like you can change.. I decided to lie though so now my family thinks I'm straight. And for a couple of years, I tried to be. But it didn't work out. I'll tell them again when I invite them to my wedding. If that ever happens.
My friends accepted it for the most part. In fact, a lot suspected it since I got called a f*g a lot. In middle school and some of the high school, people would ask a lot of questions like "why are you gay?" and "how did you realize you like men?". They were just really annoying. Like why are you straight? Nowadays, people will just say cool if I come out.
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I don't think he would kill you. Unless the parent is mentally insane they're not going to kill their child because of a choice they make. That's pretty rough though. And rude, nobody should judge you because of the choices you make. Unless it's a bad choice, of course. All sane parents want what's best for their child, and for them to be happy.
you know there are some reaaaaally homophobic parents out there. of course they wouldn't murder them, but disowning them and driving them to suicide is likely. once a parent finds out you're gay/lesbian/bi/trans*/etc and they dislike the idea about it - they don't want the best for you anymore. they want the best for them. meaning they're going to try to change you.
uh? idk i think im just pan. its kinda annoying with the "OMFG U DATE PANS???" jokes. i thought i was bi for a while but i realized i wouldn't mind dating people who identify outside the gender binary so yeah
im sorry to hear that though. my parents don't really care but they assume im straight
Basically me.
I kinda have/haven't. I'm Asexual & wish to identify as neutral gendered. I've told my dad & I think he gets it, but I haven't told my mom yet. She keeps asking me when I'm going to dress girly. I had to keep myself from bursting out laughing last time. Buck Gender Roles! >:U
My friends are okay with it. They get it. My boyfriend has a hard time understanding sometimes though. He got upset when we came to the conclusion that I like to crossdress, and then was like, "wait, you do that already".
My situation is similar to yours. I myself have managed to come to conclusion that I'm Asexual (after years of wondering and some extensive research.) I haven't told my parents or anything like that; while they are quite supportive, they don't really 'get' things like that, and it doesn't really matter much anyway.
However, I haven't come to any solid answers regarding my gender identity. I mean, for most of my life, I thought I was a cisgender woman. But then, when I was about eighteen, so three years ago, I started thinking that maybe that wasn't right, it that makes sense. I did tell my mum that I thought I might be transgender (this was before I actually found out that gender isn't just 'male' and 'female') after she asked why I had booked a doctor's appointment without her and was trying to keep it quiet. She wasn't upset, but she thought I was wrong as well, which is fair enough; I don't even know if I'm right.
I still haven't reached a solid answer, but I realise I have my days where I feel more 'female' and days where I feel more 'male', if that makes any sense. So I keep thinking that maybe I just fit into the binary or something like that. I still don't really know if I'm honest.
I'm sorry to hear that you've had so much trouble with your family. I don't really understand those people... Sexuality is just one part of a person, there's so much more in a person than this aspect. Also, I can't understand your mother's reactions toward your father's killing threats (and him choking and beating you when you were younger). If my husband did that to my children, I would leave him. I could no longer be with a person that threatens my children.
Anyway, coming back to the "original" topic, the coming out issue. I don't know how old you are but I'd say, I wouldn't come out to your parents until you're no longer dependent on them. You know, when you move out, have your own space to live, make a living etc. etc. Because if they were to disown and mistreat you then, you'd still have somewhere to go and wouldn't have to depend on their help for anything.
I didn't. x) I don't keep secrets, but I also don't feel the need to state it. I've no doubts that people know, but the only person I've confirmed it with was a (male) friend who directly asked, "Are you bi?" when we were working abroad earlier this year. I just said yes rather than elaborating that the spectrum is a little wider than that.
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Haha, yeah, I'm the same. I don't tell anyone unless someone asks. I mean, heterosexuals don't have to come out either, so why should non-heterosexuals have to? Well, I can understand if somebody wants to come out to their family if they have a girl/boyfriend and want to introduce them. Then, I guess, it's more appropriate to mention the topic before bumping into the house with your girl/boyfriend and shock your parents haha.
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in-a-pickle
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Hello everyone I have a question, what does queer mean? I also hear people talking about the whole LGBTQ thingamabob, but I can never understand what being queer would be.
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Oh, and I'm not trying to be offensive or anything.
I have a question, what does queer mean? I also hear people talking about the whole LGBTQ thingamabob, but I can never understand what being queer would be.- - - Post Merge - - -
Oh, and I'm not trying to be offensive or anything.
bittermeat
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Hello everyone
This is the best explaination I've seen: http://community.pflag.org/page.aspx?pid=952
in-a-pickle
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Hmmm...very nice explanation, thanks! It is a little confusing, but I suppose then aren't we really all queer? xD
Stevey Queen
The Queen of Mimosas
I thought queer meant like weird but as an insult means gay. Just like how gay originally meant happy but it's more commonly used for homosexual.
in the south its used as a slur, but in some places its not. i would avoid using it though since it can offend some people - unless you're talking about yourself. but idk some people see it as a slur soo yeah
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