LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[Cudon]

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My experience with this sort of thing is difficult. I was on a forum not long ago (stopped going on for different reasons, not the ones I'm about to mention) and I was in a debate with someone. I referred to someone as ''her'' as in ''I don't agree with her opinion'', but I wasn't aware about her trans identity. A friend of said person corrected me and said ''they, don't misgender''. So I was really apologetic because I didn't want to cause any ill harm etc. I thought everything was fine until I went into their own LGBT thread and saw them calling me ''evil'', ''out to destroy my life'', ''without morals'' etc. I had to say something. I had to say that it was not INTENDED as an insult and that I was very sorry that I misgendered them. After that I started to adopt their terminology for trans people and so on, but this one person was adamant that I was out to get them.

This is the issue I have with it. I was told countless times to **check my privilege** (despite the fact that the whole LGBT community on their were white, middle class etc) and I was told that their forum was a safe place for them and I had no right to go in there and start something. I told them that I didn't care, I wasn't having them bad mouthing me to my friends (I was very close to the people on that forum, and still am today) on the basis of a slip. Then they said ''I should have known''. Sorry, am I supposed to check every single person I meet and ask them what kind of gender they prefer to be labelled as? Not realistic. I said I was sorry and I was still labelled as '''evil''' in the following months. I don't get it.

I myself identify with either pan or bisexual, yet I'm the one who has to be sensitive to others. I just don't like this sense of superiority that some have. I've seen it on Tumblr, too. It's not that I'm being intolerant, I think anyone who knows me will suggest otherwise, but I don't have any patience for some kind of ''holier than thou'' attitude when it comes to identity and sexuality.

EDIT: I apologise in advance if I've upset anyone or triggered anyone. That is not my intention.

Goshdarnit... All you did was accidentally call the person by the wrong gender. Seriously what the ****. Why is it so important to be called by the right gender anyways to the point of that whatever that was said in the post can be ignored just to point out your gender. Don't get it. Also the way the person acted even after you apologized is disgusting and really immature.

 

[Hound00med]

Why you all fightin'

I just like men <3

CAN'T WE ALL JUST LIKE WHO WE LIKE AND LIKE EACH OTHER <3

 

[Flop]

Why you all fightin'

I just like men <3

CAN'T WE ALL JUST LIKE WHO WE LIKE AND LIKE EACH OTHER <3

WHY LOVE OTHERS WHEN THERE IS RELIGION.

WEEEEEEE <3

 

[Zeo]

Well.. I'm gay, but I'm also gray-A.

 

[Gizmodo]

I have to tell my friends in the next few weeks before i start treatment #pray4me

 

[radical6]

I have to tell my friends in the next few weeks before i start treatment #pray4me

good luck!

 

[Cudon]

I have to tell my friends in the next few weeks before i start treatment #pray4me

Good luck c:

 

[Amykins]

Goshdarnit... All you did was accidentally call the person by the wrong gender. Seriously what the ****. Why is it so important to be called by the right gender anyways to the point of that whatever that was said in the post can be ignored just to point out your gender.

It's important because for most trans people, a lot of bigots will refuse to call them by their gender and will insist on calling them "he" or "she" or even "shemales" or something far, far worse. Please don't trivialize their plight like this, they face a heck of a lot more discrimination than you or I do.

Many of my friends are trans, and I for one don't get why they're shunned not only by bigoted straight people, but even the gay community at times, as well. The way I see it, gender reassignment is a long, painful process - your body literally breaks itself down and has to rebuild itself right down to the cellular level. It's miserable.

Anyone strong enough to go through that, AND the hate from others, just to become the person you always wanted to be, is nothing but respectable in my book. <3

 

[oak]

I'm not really sure what's being discussed right now, but I have something random to get off my chest. I hate how I can't walk down the road without having "***" screamed at me from a car. It's happened so many times with me & my boyfriend! One time me & my boyfriend, along with my 2 male gay friends were walking down the road and we had a group of straight men get out of their car & chase us. Do you know how terrifying that is? My friends have been threatened with knifes & punched in the face. I live in British Columbia, Canada so I thought we'd be a little more progressive but apparently not. My post had no point really, it's just been eating away at me & I had to spit it out somewhere.

 

[Gizmodo]

I mean im not starting till like August BUT i need to stop lying tbh its eating me up

 

[Amykins]

I'm not really sure what's being discussed right now, but I have something random to get off my chest. I hate how I can't walk down the road without having "***" screamed at me from a car. It's happened so many times with me & my boyfriend! One time me & my boyfriend, along with my 2 male gay friends were walking down the road and we had a group of straight men get out of their car & chase us. Do you know how terrifying that is? My friends have been threatened with knifes & punched in the face. I live in British Columbia, Canada so I thought we'd be a little more progressive but apparently not. My post had no point really, it's just been eating away at me & I had to spit it out somewhere.

This is why I get so upset to hear ignorant people say "Oh, there's no such ting as racism/homophobia/misogyny/what-have you. It's WAY better than it ever has been for the LBGT community, but we still have a long way to go as a society. What about you, personally though? Are you and your bf okay? You're not in any real physical threat, right? I'm in Seattle, so if Amy has to drive up and choke a b!tch she will dangit! XD

 

[oak]

This is why I get so upset to hear ignorant people say "Oh, there's no such ting as racism/homophobia/misogyny/what-have you. It's WAY better than it ever has been for the LBGT community, but we still have a long way to go as a society. What about you, personally though? Are you and your bf okay? You're not in any real physical threat, right? I'm in Seattle, so if Amy has to drive up and choke a b!tch she will dangit! XD

I have a perfect quote! "If you stick a knife in my back nine inches and pull it out six inches, that’s not progress. If you pull it all the way out, that’s not progress. The progress comes from healing the wound that the blow made. They haven’t even begun to pull the knife out. They won’t even admit the knife is there." People think oppression is a thing of the past, but they couldn't be more wrong! Things are just starting to change, they've got quite a ways to go.

Yes me & my boyfriend were okay, luckily the guys chasing us lost interest. Thank god cause my fat smoking ass couldn't have run any longer lol. The situation hurt me more mentally then physically. I could never imagine chasing someone down the road threatening them for fun? Idk people are twisted. I appreciate your concern though!

 

[Amykins]

Okay, good. That IS an awesome quote, though. I know a good one too, to use whenever some A-hole asks "If women/gays/blacks/hispanics have it so tough, then how come they have crisis centers and scholarships and junk made just for them?"

Same reason you don't get a gaddang blue shell when you're first place in Mario Kart, numb nuts!!!

 

[Zeo]

I'm not really sure what's being discussed right now, but I have something random to get off my chest. I hate how I can't walk down the road without having "***" screamed at me from a car. It's happened so many times with me & my boyfriend! One time me & my boyfriend, along with my 2 male gay friends were walking down the road and we had a group of straight men get out of their car & chase us. Do you know how terrifying that is? My friends have been threatened with knifes & punched in the face. I live in British Columbia, Canada so I thought we'd be a little more progressive but apparently not. My post had no point really, it's just been eating away at me & I had to spit it out somewhere.

Oh gosh... that's really terrifying. D:

 

[radical6]

Okay, good. That IS an awesome quote, though. I know a good one too, to use whenever some A-hole asks "If women/gays/blacks/hispanics have it so tough, then how come they have crisis centers and scholarships and junk made just for them?"

Same reason you don't get a gaddang blue shell when you're first place in Mario Kart, numb nuts!!!

omg i love when people say "the same reason why you dont have a blue shell in mario kart if youre first" it makes me smile
but i remember reading a law in CA that was passed so that colleges could set their standards for asians trying to get scholarships even higher than the rest because ppl complained that "there are too many asians in college!11!!" or some bs like that and i was so angry im never going to college in CA.


really though im sorry you had to deal with that noahmeow. omg. thats so scary i would probably freak out. i dont think that would happen to me here though because i live in seattle but i could probably see me getting hurt for being nonbinary in the future maybe?? but thats terrible people are gross ):

 

[Squigly Contiello]

I'm just really unsure of what my identity is. I've been trying out new pronouns such as fae, and I feel it fits me, but I'm still pretty okay with she. I guess I would just go with a general genderfluid for now if I had to define it. I just feel partly "female", but partly not?

And I don't know if this has been brought up in either here or the gender poll thread, but I think that the stickied poll right now is binarist. There isn't another option for those outside the gender binary, and a simple other option would suffice. I'm a little afraid of getting ridiculed, though.

 

[Gizmodo]

The wait of 5 months for treatment is gonna kill me i think D:
eurgh dont they realise irreversible changes could happen in those months :l
It was meant to be June.. but i couldnt get into the nearest endricronology testing, so overall wont get anything till like August now -.-
Gonna be scary starting the new college year too

 

[KeatAlex]

Da gays

 

[radical6]

I'm just really unsure of what my identity is. I've been trying out new pronouns such as fae, and I feel it fits me, but I'm still pretty okay with she. I guess I would just go with a general genderfluid for now if I had to define it. I just feel partly "female", but partly not?

And I don't know if this has been brought up in either here or the gender poll thread, but I think that the stickied poll right now is binarist. There isn't another option for those outside the gender binary, and a simple other option would suffice. I'm a little afraid of getting ridiculed, though.

you might be a demigirl if youre okay with being a girl and nb. idk im not going to say what you are and arent but just a thought!
fae pronouns are cute but i heard they were otherkin only so i was like oh ok and i stopped using them. idk they might not be for otherkin. i use they/them pronouns for the most part.

also yeah i realized that too. i said i was a girl when i first join (wasnt too clear about how i felt but i just said i was a girl to make it easier) and im too scared to say anything in that thread either its okay

 

[Sir Takoya]

I'm straight, but since I dress like a boy and act like one, everyone claims that I'm lesbian. But I don't really care. They're morons. :3