Opinion on dresses?

[Alienfish]

Explain what?
Nothing more to explain though. It's just you want to see what you adore. It's like, say, there's something you like, then you feel it cute when you happen to see it. Be it whatever. Flowers, pokemon, decorative cupcakes, whatever.
It's not about something you pick. It's nothing bad unless you're forcing them to do. Isn't it?

I mean why a parent would feel so strongly to see their child in what they picked, I mean to me that feels like a 'force' to dress them up and they can't have a say (or i'm misreading it as a whole but yeah I don't get it lol).

I mean sure you can be happy if see something pretty but I don't think you should do that your kid that is all, like obviously if they are babies and can't speak it's one thing but when they become old enough to speak their own will it needs to stop, imo.

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

I mean why a parent would feel so strongly to see their child in what they picked, I mean to me that feels like a 'force' to dress them up and they can't have a say (or i'm misreading it as a whole but yeah I don't get it lol).

I mean sure you can be happy if see something pretty but I don't think you should do that your kid that is all, like obviously if they are babies and can't speak it's one thing but when they become old enough to speak their own will it needs to stop, imo.

Yeah, I think you're just misinterpreting, Sheila.
"Wish to see" and "force them to do" are actually different things. And if you feel it "force" when actually it's just them "want to see", then there's no way you see it's not force, I think.
Like I said, if they're actually forcing, then it's another story.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

Yeah, I think you're just misinterpreting, Sheila.
"Wish to see" and "force them to do" are actually different things. And if you feel it "force" when actually it's just them "want to see", then there's no way you see it's not force, I think.
Like I said, if they're actually forcing, then it's another story.

Yeah with the way my dad is, he blurs the line between "wish to see" and "force to." In many aspects if life it seems to be his way or no way. Very frustrating.

I respect when parents would like to see their kids wear something they got or made for them, but forcing them to is just not good. I've dealt with this "force" mentality my whole life and I'm really tired if it.

 

[michealsmells]

Okay so the funny thing is that I'm nonbinary, masculine leaning, but afab. I suffer from some dysphoria, but not a lot.
Dresses? GOD I flipping love dresses, dude. It's like... flowy. Makes me feel pretty

 

[MrMister5555]

I know this is a thread asking for an opinion, but I feel like this is a good place to tell a funny story about myself. So, I'm a boy and when I was 4 or 5 I remember wearing my moms dresses and stuff while she was at work and she came home and I was like mom! I was so excited and she was just like why are you wearing my dress!? I was like come look! I made her come to the bathroom and she was like what is going on. I pulled up the dress and said look how easy it is to pee! I was like why don't boys wear dresses all the time!? I thought it made the most sense logically. She just laughed and said, well they just don't wear em. And then I said, we need to talk about your shoes though "Her high heels" I said nobody can walk in these! What's the point!? They're useless. XD lol

 

[MasterM64]

Speaking from the perspective of being in a relationship, I personally love seeing my fiancee in a dress, but I also love seeing her in very comfy clothes too! <3 Generally speaking, women should be able to dress whatever they want that makes them feel comfortable and confident in my opinion.

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

Yeah with the way my dad is, he blurs the line between "wish to see" and "force to." In many aspects if life it seems to be his way or no way. Very frustrating.

I respect when parents would like to see their kids wear something they got or made for them, but forcing them to is just not good. I've dealt with this "force" mentality my whole life and I'm really tired if it.

I thought this thread was about how we think about dresses or women wearing it in general, not about specifically how we think of parents forcing something.

However, imo at the point they (parent) gets upset I deem it equivalent to forcing, maybe like your dad?
This thing actually happens occasionally between I and my girl too. There, we are like, Me: I'd like to see you in white race-y dress at your ceremony! How do you think? Girl: Hell no. Me: pretty please? Girl: I'm not gonna Me: (face of boo) Girl: …Fine. Since you did [some kind of work] on behalf, I'll do you a favor. But will you by any chance be willing to buy me a [something she wants] too? Me: Okayy deal!
So I assume it isn't making her so stressed at the moment. I just realize, maybe the difference is in whether if the parent care about child's feelings.

 

[Alienfish]

Yeah, I think you're just misinterpreting, Sheila.
"Wish to see" and "force them to do" are actually different things. And if you feel it "force" when actually it's just them "want to see", then there's no way you see it's not force, I think.
Like I said, if they're actually forcing, then it's another story.

Well as SM64 said, it's a thin line and you can't always get your wishes. If they don't want to wear the pink floof you picked for them, let them have what they want, like if they are a few months and it's their first holiday then they probably don't have a say and it's another thing buuut yeah.

There are other of pretty things you can wish for, in my opinion and I honestly don't get why parents (not saying you are bad or anything) are willing to take a lot of measures to just force/wish things on their child... That is gonna backfire when they are older unless they would agree to things. I don't think it's too healthy to deal and play the "pout kid" game too many times either.

Also as SM64 pointed out, I had too much forcing to wear this and act like that as a child so yeah bro I'm picking my own things and so why I have a bit strong opinion, people tend to think a lot of things are okay that I don't agree on so it's nothing personal.

 

[Shawna]

I wear them almost all the time! ^^

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

Spoiler:

Well as SM64 said, it's a thin line and you can't always get your wishes. If they don't want to wear the pink floof you picked for them, let them have what they want, like if they are a few months and it's their first holiday then they probably don't have a say and it's another thing buuut yeah.

There are other of pretty things you can wish for, in my opinion and I honestly don't get why parents (not saying you are bad or anything) are willing to take a lot of measures to just force/wish things on their child... That is gonna backfire when they are older unless they would agree to things. I don't think it's too healthy to deal and play the "pout kid" game too many times either.

Also as SM64 pointed out, I had too much forcing to wear this and act like that as a child so yeah bro I'm picking my own things and so why I have a bit strong opinion, people tend to think a lot of things are okay that I don't agree on so it's nothing personal.

Isn't the subject woman in dresses…

However. It's not a thin line. Just wishing should be totally okay. The case they (parent) are being upset is they not caring much about their child's feelings there and that's different thing from "just wishing". It's rather clear difference, I think.
You mixing them up. Saying must stop liking something to whoever is rather silly opinion, 'cause you can't stop liking something when you actually like it. There, just liking/wishing is okay, but getting upset for it not coming true is another story. If you're saying someone must stop liking something, that's you forcible.

Btw I only tried to "explain further" 'cause you asked me to.

 

[Alolan_Apples]

I think girls look pretty in dresses. Especially knee-length dresses with long sleeves.

 

[Alienfish]

Isn't the subject woman in dresses?

However. It's not a thin line. Just wishing should be totally okay. The case they (parent) are being upset is they not caring much about their child's feelings there and that's different thing from "just wishing". It's rather clear difference, I think.
You mixing them up. Saying must stop liking something to whoever is rather silly opinion, 'cause you can't stop liking something when you actually like it. There, just liking/wishing is okay, but getting upset for it not coming true is another story. If you're saying someone must stop liking something, that's you forcible.

Btw I only tried to "explain further" 'cause you asked me to.

Yeah, but I wanted to point out that I think some parents take it a bit too far no matter dresses or other stuff. If you want to dress up your baby people fine, they can probably yell at most because they wonder what it is, but if you have a larger child and they don't want it, you shouldn't dress them up because you think it looks good or living out your wishes to see what you picked for them, that is just wrong to my ears and brain.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

Isn't the subject woman in dresses…

Not necessarily. I'm asking people what their opinion is on this topic in general. That's why I brought up my dad's attitude about it.

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Yeah, but I wanted to point out that I think some parents take it a bit too far no matter dresses or other stuff. If you want to dress up your baby people fine, they can probably yell at most because they wonder what it is, but if you have a larger child and they don't want it, you shouldn't dress them up because you think it looks good or living out your wishes to see what you picked for them, that is just wrong to my ears and brain.

Absolutely right.

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I think girls look pretty in dresses. Especially knee-length dresses with long sleeves.

I agree. Long dresses with long sleeves are nice. I just hate when they're really tight (the one my dad wanted me to wear is very difficult to sit comfortably in, and.. you know... I kinda have to sit down to play piano lol).

Unfortunately most dresses are either really short, are thin strap/no strap, or both. It's difficult to find long length, long sleeved dresses that don't look like they're made for an old lady to wear.

 

[nintendofan85]

First of all, I'll disclose that I don't wear them, as I'm a male and crossdressing just doesn't appeal to me.

I think women can look beautiful in them, and NGL, I've even seen some men that seem to be able to pull off wearing them, but nevertheless they don't seem like the most comfortable thing to wear. I also don't think that a woman should feel forced to wear one-and in all honesty, I find the idea that women should wear them "just to look presentable" is sexist.

Basically, I think dresses should be a choice for a woman to wear. Besides, many female formal outfits exist that aren't dresses.

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

Not necessarily. I'm asking people what their opinion is on this topic in general. That's why I brought up my dad's attitude about it.

Oh. The title is confusing. Since it was "opinion on dresses", and there was "don't want it to be a nasty discussion", I thought it was about dresses or woman in dresses in general. Not specifically about woman having to wear it to look pleasing.
Though, if it's about "having to", I feel like it's somewhat pointless to ask for inputs in opinion based thread. 'Cause it's obvious, everyone should wear whatever they like/feel comfortable with and I don't believe there's a input like "woman have to wear dresses to look beautiful" or "patents can shove it into the throat of their daughter" in this forum.

 

[Noctis]

I wholeheartedly agree with you OP. I love dresses and how aesthetically pleasing they look but they're not for me. I can't imagine myself wearing them specially the revealing ones specifically in the chest area. I rather see other woman in them and comment on how pretty they look or just be like wow these dresses are so pretty. My mom though this summer she brought me a dress from her hometown. While I appreciated the gesture and how I actually felt nice and pretty in it wearing outside I just cant bring myself to. I rather stick to my casual style, which is more of a business type look except for dress pants. Since I'm 5'0 feet they look awful on me.

 

[cIementine]

i love them in theory, but i don't own many and never really find the opportunity to wear them unless i'm going on a night out because the weather's never good and they're not really practical for school. i'm a big fan of wrap dresses, midi skirts and mini dresses with a frilled hem recently.

op! if you're not a fan of dresses jumpsuits are a good shout, there's a lot of loose and comfortable ones out there and it's a style that's pretty easy to find! ones in a tank top style look great with a long sleeved shirt or turtleneck underneath. but you seem to have your own distinct sense of style and you shouldn't have to compromise on your own identity and boundaries when it comes to clothes - wear whatever you want, i'm sure you look lovely!

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

i rarely wear dresses because they make me feel self conscious but i think they look great on other people. you dont need them to look presentable though, there are lots of different things to wear instead and not only will you still look great youll feel better because youre comfortable in what you want to wear

 

[mogyay]

LOVE dresses, shorter the better bc long dresses don't look cute on me! i just feel soo comfy and soo cute in a dress, i think they're super flattering. i sit at a desk for like 10 hours a day so jeans can get rly stiff and i'm not allowed to wear leggings so i usually wear shorts/skirts/dresses as i find them much easier to sit in

in saying that no one should feel pressured into wearing whatever, it's all about personal choice

 

[Sweetley]

I think dresses are really aesthetically pleasing and I love to see other people wear them, but I absolutely HATE wearing them myself.

This is exactly how I think and feel about this too. When I was younger, I actually loved it to wear dresses (and also skirts), however over the years, I preferred it more to wear simple shirts with either jeans or just some pants in general and cared less for dresses as well as for skirts. In my family, nobody found it weird, both my parents said to me I should wear whatever I like. They never forced me to wear something I didn't like, only gave me here and there some typical tips what may fit together the best when I had no clue in that moment. The last time I own and also wear one was... Over 5 years ago? And I only bought it because I thought it was kinda cute (it was a black one with white polka dots) and would fit to me in terms of style and such, like I gave the dresses a chance again, maybe even in hope to like them again? But for some reasons, I only worn it like two or three times, last time for a small school event. Ever since then it rotted in my wardrobe until I threw it out along with other clothes I wouldn't use anymore. I never bought another one at this point, as I realized that I was pretty much done with dresses. The thing is I just feel kinda uncomfortable these days wearing one, mainly because I think I would look silly in it, as my body type right now is also not really that suitable and I just got use to it to wear more shirts and pants. Like I find people who wear dresses lovely and of course also aesthetically pleasing, for me it's just not a thing (anymore). Besides, if I would ever go to a big event where you have to look more "fancy", I would wear a suit, as I always wanted to wear one and in general I think women in suits looking pretty cool.