Yeah, I don't plan on doing it...I never believed that self harm or suicide was ever an answer, and to be honest gouging my arm open just doesn't sound like something that would ever help me. Obviously I can't vouch for other people who do it, I don't know or understand their reasoning, and I do hope that one day they can move on, and survive through it. (did that sound insensitive? I hope not...)
And yeah, seeing a civil discussion was such a sight for sore eyes. Makes me glad that people can still talk to others.
that didn't sound insensitive at all! being someone who has struggled with self harm, i do understand how it can help some people. for me, it was like a feeling of control. at the time when i struggled with it the most, i really felt like i didn't have much control over anything in my life, and that was a way for me to cope with that. i could control the way i made myself bleed. i think it was also a form of punishment for myself. i honestly believed that i didn't deserve to be happy or feel good in any way, so i would hurt myself. also, there are many different ways to self harm, other than cutting. i also used to burn myself, and so did my boyfriend at one point. i know people who would hit themselves until their eyes were black.
on the other hand though, i do completely understand why someone else wouldn't find it appealing. it seems horrible from an outside perspective, and it is, but i think you need to understand their reasoning before making assumptions and attacking them. (not you specifically, but universal "you")