What's Bothering You?

I had no idea the villager, Sandy, was female, and I feel horrible for using the wrong pronouns for her before finding out. *facepalms*
 
Oh I couldn’t ask anything from you or anyone. I truly appreciate the thought either way ^.^; your friendship is more than enough. There will be plenty more opportunities in the future even if this particular print isn’t available then. I’m just hurt she said it was fine and then changed her mind. I wish she said no to begin with. My fault for having so many issues and not being able to get a job :/.
I know what it's like to get your hopes up about something then having that backfire. :/ I hope your sister is doing alright and that nothing's recently happened for her to change her mind all of a sudden. Mental health can be exhausting to deal with, and unfortunately, a lot of systems punish those of us who do not fit the persona of someone with a type A personality. However, our generation is starting to break down the stigma around mental health, and one step forward is better than stagnation. You are a wonderful, caring person. I'm here if you ever need a listening ear. ❀

Whoever thought personal letters was a good idea in applying for jobs, pls die. It doesn't say **** in them and all letters I've read as example are like the same clichΓ©s over and over
If by personal letters you mean cover letters, then I agree 100%. I detest how I have to both appeal to both machine (ATS) and people. Finding the right balance of using just enough buzzwords to pass the ATS but not so much that I would make a real recruiter puke is such a struggle.

Well my girlfriends brother's fiance took a rapid COVID test and is positive. Of course spent a load of time with all them yesterday for Thanksgiving.

Hopefully she'll take a more definitive test soon so more info is known. Wish me luck!
I'm so sorry to hear this! I hope it hasn't spread and wish him a fast recovery. πŸ™

I'm so annoyed with people living in the city being in lockdown and coming out into the suburbs to go to restaurants, etc., which has increased our local cases here. :/ I understand that people are getting bored, but why can't people think about the longer-term consequences of their actions? How many innocent people need to get sick and possibly die for others to understand the severity of what we're up against?
 
I know what it's like to get your hopes up about something then having that backfire. :/ I hope your sister is doing alright and that nothing's recently happened for her to change her mind all of a sudden. Mental health can be exhausting to deal with, and unfortunately, a lot of systems punish those of us who do not fit the persona of someone with a type A personality. However, our generation is starting to break down the stigma around mental health, and one step forward is better than stagnation. You are a wonderful, caring person. I'm here if you ever need a listening ear. ❀


If by personal letters you mean cover letters, then I agree 100%. I detest how I have to both appeal to both machine (ATS) and people. Finding the right balance of using just enough buzzwords to pass the ATS but not so much that I would make a real recruiter puke is such a struggle.


I'm so sorry to hear this! I hope it hasn't spread and wish him a fast recovery. πŸ™

I'm so annoyed with people living in the city being in lockdown and coming out into the suburbs to go to restaurants, etc., which has increased our local cases here. :/ I understand that people are getting bored, but why can't people think about the longer-term consequences of their actions? How many innocent people need to get sick and possibly die for others to understand the severity of what we're up against?

My sister does have a lot going on and two kids. I am not angry at her at all honestly, just really sad. But my mom just ordered me the print and agreed to let me get another one. As much as I still don’t want to leave the house for her birthday, I will try to enjoy myself and not complain since she did this for me and it is her birthday. it doesn’t stop me from being anxious though. Aw shucks πŸ₯°. Thank you so much; I appreciate that so much. Same goes back to you. 😊 i’m here for you as well if you need to chat or vent :).

I agree with you and that frustrates and angers me as well. I think part of it is the mentality: it will never happen to me. I will never get it. The other part of it could be indifference, ignorance or a mixture of them all. The best thing I can say is do your best and take precautions even if no one else around you is. There isn’t anything you can do to get people to take it seriously. Try not to get yourself sick over this. If you want to talk more about this, you know I’m here for you :).
 
My sister does have a lot going on and two kids. I am not angry at her at all honestly, just really sad. But my mom just ordered me the print and agreed to let me get another one. As much as I still don’t want to leave the house for her birthday, I will try to enjoy myself and not complain since she did this for me and it is her birthday. it doesn’t stop me from being anxious though. Aw shucks πŸ₯°. Thank you so much; I appreciate that so much. Same goes back to you. 😊 i’m here for you as well if you need to chat or vent :).

I agree with you and that frustrates and angers me as well. I think part of it is the mentality: it will never happen to me. I will never get it. The other part of it could be indifference, ignorance or a mixture of them all. The best thing I can say is do your best and take precautions even if no one else around you is. There isn’t anything you can do to get people to take it seriously. Try not to get yourself sick over this. If you want to talk more about this, you know I’m here for you :).
Aww, that's so sweet of your mom! <3 I'm so glad she was able to treat you. :3 I hope going out doesn't get too overwhelming for you, and happy early birthday to your mom too! πŸ₯³

The mentality is definitely that. I can't remember how many people in Canada died from SARS, but the number of mortalities in countries like South Korea, Japan, Taiwan, etc. is definitely a huge factor as to why the folks there generally take more precautions. Another aspect is culture; those countries heavily emphasize the collective, whereas North America is more individualistic. Both have their pros and cons, obviously. I'm oversimplifying the psychology behind the mindset a lot, I know. xD Earlier on in the year, hearing about news like this really bothered me; now I just sorta roll my eyes and keep on doing my part to keep myself and my community safe.

Thanks for listening, friend. <3
 
I want to tell someone I think they look really cute, but it’d be too awkward for them.
 
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i think college burnout is kicking in and i hate that it makes me feel like i physically can't do anything
this feels like a new level of burnout
i hope these 2 weeks go by fast +.+
 
idk why but lately I've been really worried/scared about my gender identity. obv biologically I'm a female but I really like to dress like a guy (like wearing a suit/tuxedo with a nice tie, I don't mean form fitting either cause those are generally more feminine. or even baggy pants and a t-shirt. I've even given thought to wearing a binder), I've thought about cutting my hair short... basically I don't like being really feminine.

the reason I'm worried is because most of my family is very conservative/traditional in their values. I've actively had family members tell me that I need to dress like a lady, and that I'm basically not allowed to wear things like tuxedos/suits or even ties. makes me so mad. I wouldn't necessarily say that I'm transgender, maybe more like genderfluid. I have no clue how my parents/brother would react either.


basically I'm just really stressed about a lot of things and this really isnt helping at all.


edit: in case people are wondering I really would like to talk to someone, maybe someone who can relate to my issue.
 
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My grandpa has been in the hospital for like a week (non-COVID related) and no one is allowed to visit him.

It's very stressful. We all just want him to be okay and come home.

Oh no :(. I am really sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine how hard that is for you right now. Hang in there and sending best wishes to you and your family. Sorry if that sounds weird since I’m a stranger; I just sincerely hope your grandpa recovers and comes home safe and healthy.
 
idk why but lately I've been really worried/scared about my gender identity. obv biologically I'm a female but I really like to dress like a guy (like wearing a suit/tuxedo with a nice tie, I don't mean form fitting either cause those are generally more feminine. or even baggy pants and a t-shirt. I've even given thought to wearing a binder), I've thought about cutting my hair short... basically I don't like being really feminine.

the reason I'm worried is because most of my family is very conservative/traditional in their values. I've actively had family members tell me that I need to dress like a lady, and that I'm basically not allowed to wear things like tuxedos/suits or even ties. makes me so mad. I wouldn't necessarily say that I'm transgender, maybe more like genderfluid. I have no clue how my parents/brother would react either.


basically I'm just really stressed about a lot of things and this really isnt helping at all.
I kinda feel this, I don't like wearing dresses or feminine things that much except for like occasionally makeup and I've been questioning my gender too, and like I kinda wanna try using she/they pronouns? Idk I've been questioning for a while
I'm starting to think I'm a demigirl and I've been feeling like an enby and a girl at the same time but idk
If I did I don't know what my best friend would think or if he'd still like me the way he does and I doubt I'd ever be able to come out to my parents cause mine are also very conservative
So I just don't knowwww
 
I can't tell if this new guy I like likes me back πŸ‘‰πŸΎπŸ‘ˆπŸΎ he keeps telling me he does but he'll switch it up when he talks to my ex.
 
idk why but lately I've been really worried/scared about my gender identity. obv biologically I'm a female but I really like to dress like a guy (like wearing a suit/tuxedo with a nice tie, I don't mean form fitting either cause those are generally more feminine. or even baggy pants and a t-shirt. I've even given thought to wearing a binder), I've thought about cutting my hair short... basically I don't like being really feminine.

the reason I'm worried is because most of my family is very conservative/traditional in their values. I've actively had family members tell me that I need to dress like a lady, and that I'm basically not allowed to wear things like tuxedos/suits or even ties. makes me so mad. I wouldn't necessarily say that I'm transgender, maybe more like genderfluid. I have no clue how my parents/brother would react either.


basically I'm just really stressed about a lot of things and this really isnt helping at all.


edit: in case people are wondering I really would like to talk to someone, maybe someone who can relate to my issue.
Bro easy be a tomboy like for me I'm a female but I don't care for girly crap aside from skirts Like... I think you can identify as a girl just not a super girly girl. Lots of people like tomboys !
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Wait wait did you and Sean break up??
Yeah πŸ˜… he's kinda WHACCORONI N CHEESE
 
I kinda feel this, I don't like wearing dresses or feminine things that much except for like occasionally makeup and I've been questioning my gender too, and like I kinda wanna try using she/they pronouns? Idk I've been questioning for a while
I'm starting to think I'm a demigirl and I've been feeling like an enby and a girl at the same time but idk
If I did I don't know what my best friend would think or if he'd still like me the way he does and I doubt I'd ever be able to come out to my parents cause mine are also very conservative
So I just don't knowwww
I've already been using they pronouns for a while. I've also not minded when people refer to me as he/him. I think using she/they pronouns is a good place to start.
Bro easy be a tomboy like for me I'm a female but I don't care for girly crap aside from skirts Like... I think you can identify as a girl just not a super girly girl. Lots of people like tomboys !
well it might be a bit more complicated than that. it's not necessarily just that I want to dress like a guy (not to mention binders, which are usually used by trans folk), I actually feel really restricted being solely referred to as she/her. I find some comfort in gender fluidity.
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btw I appreciate the replies yall 😊
 
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