ali.di.magix
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I hate being sick because when I'm lying down it feels like I can't breathe 
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What's Bothering You?
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Violet Witch
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One of my cats has injured her back leg (possibly the paw) and I just hate seeing her in pain. Fingers crossed her trip to the vets in a bit will clarify that she’s just strained it and not broken it. 
I just deleted that post explaining exactly what happened between us but… my partner really upset me this time. It’s crossing a line. I’ve honestly not really been upset (in an angry sense) at them like this until now. Those were more annoyances. I said, outright to them, I’d never been that upset at them.
After our very stupid disagreement (over a very stupid video game) and venting here… I told them how I felt.
They said they weren’t even really upset… they just wanted to not get hung up on it and move to a different topic. But, they literally said, “I can’t even say anything good about my favorite video game”. Not paraphrasing. Which sounds like them beating themselves up. Talking that way over it knowing that I’m tired of picking them up feels insensitive. Could have just said agree to disagree.
I make it a point to say sorry if I think I made a mistake, and I did apologise even over this disagreement.
After I said I’d never been so upset… My partner didn’t even apologise to me. They said nothing. They literally said nothing.
This relationship isn’t fair to me. It really might be over now, and I’d considered the possibility for several weeks now. I’m saying that here before I’m telling my partner, which isn’t a good omen for the relationship.
This kind of thing happens but… it feels like we have totally different languages. If it were going to last it’d last through me sharing those feelings. There have been so many problems. And this is long-distance which has its own problems. I’m so tired.
I feel like I’ve tried picking things up every single time we reach a dip and I’ve said as much. My partner always says they just don’t know what to do and it shows. I know they try but they don’t communicate much of anything or intellectually stimulate me and they never pick me up when I need it. The one relationship where I feel like I get the bare minimum of an honest soul- I can’t take it anymore. I’ve been trying everything I can to give them some “mental training wheels” to become more emotionally mature and learn more and not just to serve me. I care about my partner but it feels like we should be friends instead. There are a lot of ways they haven’t really been able to satisfy me. I can’t make them change. I can’t guide them for every little thing pr I’m going to be back in the guide role unable to let it go and relax with my partner. Again. There’s a clear disconnect in how we unwind. If I can’t mutually share certain things in a relationship I’m not going to be happy there in the end… The one honest relationship I’ve had.
Hell, I’ve even done the very very best I can to make myself happy and it feels like they don’t even share that with me. A few weeks ago, I said something to the effect that I hadn’t been so happy in years, in our little group. They were sad that day and had nothing to say about it to me, even seeing me happy doesn’t seem to help. We don’t even share our feelings really anymore.
October is coming up. I’m going to be telling them just before October, or stomaching it until just after October. And that makes me a little sad… October is the best. I really wanted to make Halloween special. Realistically, this is a chore and I’d rather not have the stress of this hanging over me in my favorite month. So… I’d rather tell them sooner that this relationship has been slowly killing me.
After our very stupid disagreement (over a very stupid video game) and venting here… I told them how I felt.
They said they weren’t even really upset… they just wanted to not get hung up on it and move to a different topic. But, they literally said, “I can’t even say anything good about my favorite video game”. Not paraphrasing. Which sounds like them beating themselves up. Talking that way over it knowing that I’m tired of picking them up feels insensitive. Could have just said agree to disagree.
I make it a point to say sorry if I think I made a mistake, and I did apologise even over this disagreement.
After I said I’d never been so upset… My partner didn’t even apologise to me. They said nothing. They literally said nothing.
This relationship isn’t fair to me. It really might be over now, and I’d considered the possibility for several weeks now. I’m saying that here before I’m telling my partner, which isn’t a good omen for the relationship.
This kind of thing happens but… it feels like we have totally different languages. If it were going to last it’d last through me sharing those feelings. There have been so many problems. And this is long-distance which has its own problems. I’m so tired.
I feel like I’ve tried picking things up every single time we reach a dip and I’ve said as much. My partner always says they just don’t know what to do and it shows. I know they try but they don’t communicate much of anything or intellectually stimulate me and they never pick me up when I need it. The one relationship where I feel like I get the bare minimum of an honest soul- I can’t take it anymore. I’ve been trying everything I can to give them some “mental training wheels” to become more emotionally mature and learn more and not just to serve me. I care about my partner but it feels like we should be friends instead. There are a lot of ways they haven’t really been able to satisfy me. I can’t make them change. I can’t guide them for every little thing pr I’m going to be back in the guide role unable to let it go and relax with my partner. Again. There’s a clear disconnect in how we unwind. If I can’t mutually share certain things in a relationship I’m not going to be happy there in the end… The one honest relationship I’ve had.
Hell, I’ve even done the very very best I can to make myself happy and it feels like they don’t even share that with me. A few weeks ago, I said something to the effect that I hadn’t been so happy in years, in our little group. They were sad that day and had nothing to say about it to me, even seeing me happy doesn’t seem to help. We don’t even share our feelings really anymore.
October is coming up. I’m going to be telling them just before October, or stomaching it until just after October. And that makes me a little sad… October is the best. I really wanted to make Halloween special. Realistically, this is a chore and I’d rather not have the stress of this hanging over me in my favorite month. So… I’d rather tell them sooner that this relationship has been slowly killing me.
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I think you have perfectly fine thoughts about it and you're definitely not alone. I also probably do kid/cute things, but yeah if someone would be like that I would have to be honest with them no matter what. Communication is key, and you should feel good for open up about it, I think a lot of partners and friends fail with this cause, yeah anxiety feeling or afraid to hurt, and they'd just explode it on their partner/friend instead.
You should definitely not feel bad about it, you were honest and if he does improve that's great but if not unless offering help would help and he wants it there is nothing much one can do. I can relate to this not wanting to lose an important person in one's life, but I think eventually we have to come down to things even if it's very hard to do.
I'll end it here to not go on too long rants, but if you want to talk you can hit me on Discord or in PMs here and I'll remember to check. I hope it works out for the best and you both don't feel too bad, it's definitely a vulnerable see-saw here.
You should definitely not feel bad about it, you were honest and if he does improve that's great but if not unless offering help would help and he wants it there is nothing much one can do. I can relate to this not wanting to lose an important person in one's life, but I think eventually we have to come down to things even if it's very hard to do.
I'll end it here to not go on too long rants, but if you want to talk you can hit me on Discord or in PMs here and I'll remember to check. I hope it works out for the best and you both don't feel too bad, it's definitely a vulnerable see-saw here.
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My rabbit was suppose to go to the vet tomorrow for surgery for a growth on his mouth and they cancelled the appointment and rescheduled for Monday. Hopefully my rabbit will be okay until then.
@Drawdler I don't know the whole context, but I'm just going to be blunt. If you both are getting so heated over something as small as a video game and not something closely resembling a more relationship issue, I'd say this wasn't meant to be until there is more emotional maturity. It's probably not something you'd like to hear, but it needs to be said.
You can't change people. You should focus on yourself and finding ways to better yourself in your own way so that you can bring about your own happiness. A relationship is a lot of work. It's not something where you enter it and hope that your partner can create happiness. It's where they can help make you happier.
You can't change people. You should focus on yourself and finding ways to better yourself in your own way so that you can bring about your own happiness. A relationship is a lot of work. It's not something where you enter it and hope that your partner can create happiness. It's where they can help make you happier.
ali.di.magix
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I hate when people at work promise they'll do stuff for you then suddenly something changes everything. Don't make a promise in the first place if you can't commit to it 
@TheDuke55 I agree and thanks for your response. I’ve hardly spoke to people about the problems in this relationship so alas I feel pretty alone on solving it but I guess that’s how it goes.
Yes yes other people shouldn’t solve all my problems for me… it’s just I’ve always felt like I’m fighting for myself because even my parents push their problems on me without giving a damn for what I actually say. This relationship is another reflection of that… My partner is just there, we don’t really conversate or solve things or share ideas as I would like… It’s gone on long enough that I forget what I want for a moment sometimes and I just don’t know what to tell them anymore. I don’t want to act like the high and mighty one but I am more emotionally mature than my partner and this is their first relationship. It’s just truth.
I thought I was pretty emotionally mature when it started and in the last couple of weeks I tried having serious conversations with my partner. I can’t remember how I got to this point in the conversation but that’s irrelevant, I asked if they thought their problems would go away if they had a relationship, and my partner said yes to me. Stuff about how they thought if they had someone, they’d be happy and things would be simpler.
In our group I’d openly shared a lot about myself and my view on relationships… I thought if someone asked me for a relationship they’d have known that. I thought that would be a basic idea. I said over and over relationships aren’t a silver bullet to problems, just sharing thoughta about relationships in early random conversations. Lesson learned. But it sucks because now I feel even more reclusive, untrusting, and doubtful of people, when someone who loves me still looked over the things I was actually saying. I know I’m not stupid but it’s felt that way because I didn’t see my partner was like this sooner… I gave them the benefit of the doubt and trusted them because I thought this would be common sense and they’re a good person despite being an ill-fitting partner.
More or less, that isn’t really news to me, but it helps me feel a little less crazy so thanks… This seems one of the worse kind of breakups where neither of us is really in the wrong.
Every other one ended with manipulation or blackmail, this time we’re just different people. At least I could write those guys off for being awful to me. But I want to stay friends with my current partner which is more complicated /:
Edit: if this conversation continues I guess it would be better in PMs, so I’ll leave it at that but, either way this relationship is definitely bothering me so I’ll likely post about it again soon /:
Edit 2: if I can’t be friends with my partner in the future this would also separate me from my only real friend group and I’d be alone grieving over it and the end of it. I’m not good at making friends and unfortunately I also seem to attract people who use me to dump their rants or problems, or people who manipulate me, unless I just stay a recluse. So, I really don’t want to lose that friend group, at least I don’t think they would choose sides between us.
Yes yes other people shouldn’t solve all my problems for me… it’s just I’ve always felt like I’m fighting for myself because even my parents push their problems on me without giving a damn for what I actually say. This relationship is another reflection of that… My partner is just there, we don’t really conversate or solve things or share ideas as I would like… It’s gone on long enough that I forget what I want for a moment sometimes and I just don’t know what to tell them anymore. I don’t want to act like the high and mighty one but I am more emotionally mature than my partner and this is their first relationship. It’s just truth.
I thought I was pretty emotionally mature when it started and in the last couple of weeks I tried having serious conversations with my partner. I can’t remember how I got to this point in the conversation but that’s irrelevant, I asked if they thought their problems would go away if they had a relationship, and my partner said yes to me. Stuff about how they thought if they had someone, they’d be happy and things would be simpler.
In our group I’d openly shared a lot about myself and my view on relationships… I thought if someone asked me for a relationship they’d have known that. I thought that would be a basic idea. I said over and over relationships aren’t a silver bullet to problems, just sharing thoughta about relationships in early random conversations. Lesson learned. But it sucks because now I feel even more reclusive, untrusting, and doubtful of people, when someone who loves me still looked over the things I was actually saying. I know I’m not stupid but it’s felt that way because I didn’t see my partner was like this sooner… I gave them the benefit of the doubt and trusted them because I thought this would be common sense and they’re a good person despite being an ill-fitting partner.
More or less, that isn’t really news to me, but it helps me feel a little less crazy so thanks… This seems one of the worse kind of breakups where neither of us is really in the wrong.
Every other one ended with manipulation or blackmail, this time we’re just different people. At least I could write those guys off for being awful to me. But I want to stay friends with my current partner which is more complicated /:
Edit: if this conversation continues I guess it would be better in PMs, so I’ll leave it at that but, either way this relationship is definitely bothering me so I’ll likely post about it again soon /:
Edit 2: if I can’t be friends with my partner in the future this would also separate me from my only real friend group and I’d be alone grieving over it and the end of it. I’m not good at making friends and unfortunately I also seem to attract people who use me to dump their rants or problems, or people who manipulate me, unless I just stay a recluse. So, I really don’t want to lose that friend group, at least I don’t think they would choose sides between us.
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the way i actually felt good and okay the past 2-3 weeks and now i’m all brain foggy and sad again LOL. my energy levels are literally depleted, which is Very inconvenient since i have schoolwork and other stuff to do every day. 
i just want to be able to function. i’m tired of my mother constantly screaming and yelling and crying. i’m tired of how defeated and apathetic my father is. i’m tired of my cat constantly getting into **** and jumping onto high platforms and dangling off of them/rolling around on them until she falls or my mother manages to get her down. she’s gonna hurt herself one of these days, and i just. 
i just want peace.
idk how to feel better and stay feeling better, i’m so tired of this and i know everyone else is as well lol.
i just want to be able to function. i’m tired of my mother constantly screaming and yelling and crying. i’m tired of how defeated and apathetic my father is. i’m tired of my cat constantly getting into **** and jumping onto high platforms and dangling off of them/rolling around on them until she falls or my mother manages to get her down. she’s gonna hurt herself one of these days, and i just. i just want peace. idk how to feel better and stay feeling better, i’m so tired of this and i know everyone else is as well lol.
ethnicbraat
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Sometimes yk i feel as if my bf prefers to not hang out with me anymore because of me I feel like I put to much pressure on him and I feel so bad
One of my fave roll/turtle neck shirts shrunk in the washing machine AND there was a hole in the armpit I didn't see when I bought it (second hand for sure but as long as the armpits are not hole-y it's usually good quality).
daringred_
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pretty sure i'm really sick because of inhaling paint fumes from our newly done bathroom for a few days. not sure it explains the occasional stomach/abdominal pain though. (it's not menstrual, for the record.)
