What's Bothering You?

[Xara]

my mom’s car suddenly died while my parents were out, and now they’re in the parking lot of a grocery store waiting for the tow to get there. can we please just have one day where something doesn’t go wrong, like what the actual ****.

edit: turns out it was a problem with the battery. they were able to charge it, and get home safely. we’ll have to get a new battery to ensure this doesn’t happen again, but better that than having to get a new car entirely, which we wouldn’t be able to afford. bless.

 

[Alolan_Apples]

One of our dogs is being too up close and personal to me. I don’t even like being touched by animals.

 

[jiny]

broke up with my bf lol

 

[xSuperMario64x]

broke up with my bf lol

I'm sorry to hear this, I've been through a breakup before and while it wasn't even that serious of a relationship, it still hurt a lot. if you need someone to listen to you ramble or anything my DMs are open

 

[Croconaw]

Can’t tell if I actually look like a female despite doing what I can to present masculine or if my voice is the only thing outting me.

 

[-Mars-]

-snip-

Spoiler

Yeah I feel your struggles because it's extremely hard to "pass" as a different gender then the birth sex people see you as when it's honestly really hard to figure out what specific detail(s) prevents you from passing "your voice?" "your face?" "your body?" etc.

I'm AFAB and I desire to be seen as more androgynous and/or masculine but people only ever see me as female/feminine and I don't know what is preventing me from "passing"
I wear men's clothing, I got my hair cut extremely short, I bind my chest, I don't shave my body hair, I'm kind of tall-ish at nearly 5"6 tall, I don't understand why people still see me as a cis-female. I don't know if my voice is considered "deep" for a female but my voice isn't high-pitched and shrill sounding like most women have. I don't know if it's my face? I don't know what it is honestly

 

[xSuperMario64x]

wish I could take commissions for tbt but I already have so many drawings I'm working on

also found out recently that my face wash is what been making me break out, so now I can only wash my face with warm water. I'm gonna go to the store and hope that I can find a face wash that won't cause me to break out. I'll be pretty frustrated if I shell out even more money just to have it not work for me  again. I don't see my dermatologist again until Dec 13th, may have to see if I can get in sooner

 

[jiny]

Spoiler

my stomach has been growling since last night and i know it’s because my stomachs empty but i can’t bring myself to eat bc i feel like ill get nauseous

 

[moonbyu]

Spoiler: njkvhcu,

so my professor eventually put me in a group (tbh it's less of a group and more of a "all the other groups are full so you and this person can work in a group of two") and it's been.. difficult.

they haven't entered the document that i shared to them and they've only opened it once. for the entire time we were working or i was working, they were using my computer to type on the document :/ their computer was working and they were making google searches and that but for some reason they didn't want to enter the document because they didn't wanna go into their outlook, which i had sent it to (yeah im really confused about this??? i find it weird that they literally gave me their email but didn't wanna open it).

anyways, the really annoying thing happened yesterday. since i had to go do baby-sitting, they claimed that they're going to go see a tutor, get some help and type some more once they get it opened. once i got home and read it, i realized that it just didn't make any sense at all. it's like they didn't read any of the instructions that the professor have us. i've started to wonder if the "tutor" that they said they saw might've been AI all along but i don't want to jump to any conclusions.

i'm going to talk to them on monday ofc (dreading it though because i have no backbone and confronting people makes me physically ill buttttt i really dont want to fail this course) but still this has been a very annoying experience

Spoiler: njkvkjfhk

update on this uhhh they dropped the course and didn't tell me lol. i was just informed about it by my teacher which means they never bothered to tell me. sooo,.. crisis averted i guess?? at the end of the day, i'm doing a group assignment alone so it really isn't a win lmao

 

[Beanz]

Spoiler: idk

i was reading through paperwork from psychological testing done on me when i was young. all this testing was done on me from when i was four, five, and six years old. i honestly don’t know what to say, i knew i had difficulties but i was diagnosed with all these conditions and nobody ever told me. selective mutism?? pervasive developmental disorder?? learning disabilities?? what the hell, what is pervasive developmental disorder?? im not sure i fit the criteria for any of that anymore. i’m not even mad, i just don’t know how to feel, im confused. i wish i hadn’t looked.

 

[Dim]

Forgot to cancel a membership before the renewal. I'm bad at... not wasting money.

 

[-Mars-]

-snip-

Uhh I don't know if you wanted to know this or not so read at your own risk...

Spoiler

Pervasive developmental disorder is formerly classified as "mild autism" but since the fifth edition of the DSM has been updated in 2013 to change the medical terminology of mental disorders, terms such as "Aspergers" "Pervasive developmental disorder(PDD)"
"Childhood Disintegrative Disorder(CDD)" and "Kanner Syndrome" have been removed from the manual and reclassified as "Autism Spectrum Disorder" or simply just "Autism"
Selective Mutism and Learning Disabilities are associated with Autism.

You maybe might be Autistic but the terms the physiologist diagnosed you with when you were young are no longer used in medical settings or who knows maybe it's a misdiagnosis?
I'm not a doctor or a physiologist or anything I'm just diagnosed with Autism myself and I was just telling you ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

[Beanz]

^^ sorry couldn’t quote

Spoiler: -snip-

thank you. based on what on the paperwork it definitely does seem like i did fit the criteria at that age. in several reports i was described as nonverbal, unfriendly, preferred to play alone, dissociative, easily distracted and upset when my routine was changed but completely normal at home (part of a diagnoses when i was 5). what confuses me is that i was tested for a learning disability in 2020 and it was revealed to me that the autism diagnosis from when i was younger was a misdiagnosis. i really don’t know how that was ruled out since i thought the testing for a learning disability and autism were different? i really don’t know if it was officially declared a misdiagnosis.

autism symptoms in children and autism symptoms in adults are obviously extremely different but i feel like i only have very few symptoms of autism now that could be related to social anxiety instead. to my knowledge autism isn’t something you can just grow out of unless im unaware that im masking.

sorry for this long ass paragraph, just needed to vent. you don’t need to reply to this.

 

[SleepyAmaurotine]

i really wish my coworkers would stop trying to guilt trip me into going to their christmas lunch/party thing, they’re all lovely people and i enjoy talking to them at work, but i’m just not into this stuff so i don’t want to go out with them

they dropped it for now but i’m still feeling super anxious about when it’s the day before/day of the lunch and they might try to insist again they seem like reasonable people but i’m worried they’ll try to say it’s mandatory (when i told my boss he said it was okay, so i’m probably safe) or say my christmas bonus (if any) is tied to being in attendance

 

[Seastar]

It's almost my favorite month again and I still haven't actually started feeling better. I'm suffering right now and the excitement I normally get about December is completely absent. This is depressing...

 

[kisaker39]

i accidently spilt hot water on my hand while making tea. i filled my kettle up to the top, whereas i would usually fill it 3/4. for some strange reason, i decided to hold my cup while putting hot water it in. i forgot the kettle was full, i poured it too fast and it went right on my hand. this was 6 hours ago, and it has only become more painful and inconvenient.

 

[Stella-Io]

I don't think I'm gettin the job.

I called earlier today to get an update, boss didn't answer, left my name and number. She said she would call Wed, yesterday, but I didn't get a call. If I still don't get a call I'm cutting my losses and moving on, I can't keep waiting on foot and call when I have my own bills+groceries to buy.

I really need a job but god DAMN it is so hard. 'There's a labour shortage no one wants to work' no one wants to HIRE. I've been interviewed for one place, everythin seemed to go well, they had me fill out like 20 papers like taxes, ssn for the background check, insurance, ect... Showed me around the employee area, just for them to ghost me and give me a quick dismissive 'we're good but we'll keep your application' when I had to call back. Really? You're good? Cause I was qualified, had certifications and you seemed pretty adamant about wanting to hire.

None of the other like 5 or 6 places I've applied to have reached back, out of over 40 that I called for them to not be hiring. One even hung up on me when I asked if they were hiring. Rude >:/

I was offered a mobile grooming position which is NOT what I applied for and thus had to turn it down cause I can't drive around a large van, I'm a brand spanking new driver with my Toyota.

I really wish it wasn't this hard and that I didn't leave my old job without having another lined up. Lesson ****in learned. Had I known it was gonna take me months I would have probably stuck it out with my old job even thou it had multiple cons. I'm quite literally running out of options of places to apply for.

 

[Dim]

I've been dealing with some kind of mild cold the past week but suddenly it's gotten a lot worse. My throat is killing me.

 

[Autumn247]

My 14 year old cat Maybelle died today and I am devastated over it

 

[Alolan_Apples]

My 14 year old cat Maybelle died today and I am devastated over it

I’m sorry that happened