My best friend keeps making me feel worse even when he’s trying to help me. He said today that he doesn’t want his new year to be gloomy yet he told me he met someone right before christmas; making my christmas “gloomy”. i told him that and he did not like it. he is right i am acting childish and not thinking rationally but for the eight years we’ve been friends, I’ve been emotionally invested in him so ofc i’m going to more than upset. he should have stopped things between us sooner or not done anything period since he knew I liked/loved him. When i say anything, he says I’m being either passive aggressive or threatening him or guilt tripping him. I’m not though. I was once passive aggressive but recent years, I’ve learned how hurtful it is and what it even is and so I’ve been avoiding doing that anymore. He made me so mad today! if someone you care about is hurting and isn’t safe, you shouldn’t yell at them or be passive aggressive. also he should pay more attention when he says something like ending things not before christmas. he says he doesn’t mean to hurt me and i normally believe that since he is very blunt and honest, but the timing was so awful and he can be really insensitive. before this new job, and even more before he moved to where he is now, he was always here for me when I needed him. now he’s never here for me… I can’t bear this.