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I love my parents equally, but I can't talk to my dad as in confide in him. I go to my mum for that, and even then theres only somethings that I can say to my mum. Though I know that they both love me and will support me with whatever I decide to do. c:
This may sound terrible, especially in light of my father's recent death, but I have always been much closer to my mom. My mom was practically my best friend at certain points in my life and I think she is the sweetest, kindest, most wonderful mother ever. Of course, she's not a perfect person, no one is, but I love her dearly.
My father and I had a lot of issues. We had pretty much opposite values and beliefs on everything and he was the kind of person to expect everyone to conform to him because he thought he was always right. He was more of a dictator than a parent as well as being borderline abusive.
I love both of them very much. My mom actually died several months ago after almost a year long battle with cancer. My mom was the most positive person in the world I had ever known. My dad has an empathetic and caring side to him. I get both of those things from both of them. I would think highly of them even if they weren’t my parents (I’ve said all of this before already).
My moms are extremely different people, but they’re pros and cons even out. If there was something I couldn’t discuss with one parent I could always reach out to the other.
The same can be said with needs. Practical advice and conversations could be held with my birth mother, while my adoptive mom was better with emotional matters. To this day I still have that dynamic with them.
I know this thread question was posted with "Like", but one of the multiple choice selections uses the word "Love". Those are two VERY different words that can result in VERY different responses. If someone you Love is having a bad day, and takes it out on you (because we tend to hurt most the ones we Love), you will feel a great amount of "dislike" for that person that you still Love.
Love is NOT something that you can turn on and off at will, as you can with "like". Far too many people blur the line between the two and don't realize the consequences of doing so.
I lost both my parents within ten months of each other recently, and I thank God that I didn't blur that line with the time I had with them. It is not always a bed of roses, there will be thorns, so your loved ones may say and do things to upset you for good or even bad reasons, but there is no toggle switch for "real Love"
I'm going to cast my selection now, I believe you all know which choice I will make.
My parents split up when I was 11 and I lived with my mum without question because my dad wasn't the most loving towards me especially as a child. He just didn't know how to parent a child and would often take out his frustrations on me via a light slap on the back of the head. He's also a serial cheater and has never stayed faithful to any women he's been with including my mum, one of his long term girlfriends (who hated me) and his current second wife. Even though he's told me multiple times he loves me and will always be there for me I've never once believed him. These days I'm amicable towards him but I don't view him as my father because he barely did a thing to raise me, it was all my mum who is the kindest women I know and has a big heart for everyone, even towards those who have screwed her over in the past.
I have both mummy and daddy issues (and the daddy issues are worse, to the point where I estranged my father when I was 17), so no, I don't get along with them well, and if I ever have offspring, I really don't want to let them experience the same because that'd just be horrid.
Growing up I was probably closer to my mum (and probably still am really) as we've always had a lot in common and my dad worked longer hours, plus at numerous times in my life he worked away so I only saw him at weekends. However nowadays I'm very close to both of them, though I'm more likely to clash with my dad on things as we're both stubborn, and I voted for loving them both the same as even if at various times I feel closer to one then the other it never changes how much I love them.
I prefer my dad. I actually have a relationship with him and know him, as opposed to my mum. I haven’t seen or heard from her since I was a kid and I don’t really remember her
My dad has his faults but overall he’s a good guy. He’s taken care of me and I love him to bits.
Honestly I think both my parents suck.. and I know it sounds, terrible lol. I have thought this for a long time, and have been told by countless people, well when you reach such and such age you won't feel or think that way. You will think they know what they are talking about or doing.
I am at that age now, and I still think they both suck.
Doesn't mean I don't think they tried on stuff... just that in my opinion, they shouldn't have been parents. If they ever did split I probably would have lived with my mom, even though I had and still have to correct her on stuff or explain stuff to her that she should know or be able to figure out because she just isn't bright. And she has control issues. Not trying to be mean, it just is what it is.
Both of my parents were mean. Some say it was abuse, others say it wasn't but that they were just mean.
Maybe I don't sugar coat stuff as much as I should or that other people do, or maybe people don't sugar coat stuff about their parents or family and mine is just that wonky. I also, as an adult, try to remember there was a history of generational family abuse, and what I experienced, whatever you want to label it as, was extremely mild, so maybe they just didn't realize at the time about stuff. In their own way, they did attempt to show support in some stuff growing up.
I still see them and talk to them. They have mellowed out since.
I grew up mainly with my mother. Barely had a relationship (if you can even call it that) with my father. It's not that we were on bad terms or anything, it's just that I rarely ever saw him, and when I did it was a futile attempt by him at being a part of me and my sister's lives. Random visits, random talks. Never felt anything toward him, really.
Haven't heard from him/about him in years. For all I know he's maybe dead, or living in another country. Don't know, don't really care. I'm content as is, not thinking about it, and will continue on being content.
While I do love both of my parents, I get along better and bond better with my mum. We share similar interests and have the same sense of humour, so we get along pretty well. I do also get along with my dad, but as soon as I question his actions our relationship gets strained. Plus, in all honesty he has caused our family a fair deal of pain over the years, so I've always automatically put my mum as my favourite.
My mom raised my sister and I by herself for the majority of our lives, so I'm definitely closer with her. Due to my dad living in a different country, I feel like he doesn't know me that well, especially since I haven't seen him in over a year now because of the pandemic.
I think this poll could use a few more options (like an option for people with 2 moms or dads).
No question, my mom ! Sure, she has her faults and we get into fights but she genuinely loves us and cares for our well-being. My dad is terrible human being and a worse father. He is abusive and absolutely selfish. I think my mom would've left him long ago if not for the societal pressures of our culture. I told her that if she left him, I would support her financially but she would rather suffer herself than put that burden on me and my brother . I do wish Americans lived in a society that was less centered on the nuclear family so if your parent(s) is/are terrible, you would still have elders in the community to raise you and care for you.
! Sure, she has her faults and we get into fights but she genuinely loves us and cares for our well-being. My dad is terrible human being and a worse father. He is abusive and absolutely selfish. I think my mom would've left him long ago if not for the societal pressures of our culture. I told her that if she left him, I would support her financially but she would rather suffer herself than put that burden on me and my brother 
. I do wish Americans lived in a society that was less centered on the nuclear family so if your parent(s) is/are terrible, you would still have elders in the community to raise you and care for you.
