Ugh I'm so sorry. My dad, who has ADHD (handling it aggressively), wasn't in my life much. But when he'd visit when I was a kid, he'd be very impatient and wouldn't understand my shyness. I stuttered growing up, so I had a hard time talking which affected my confidence all the way up until high school. If I took too long to reply or respond to him, he'd yell at me. I won't ever think it's okay to be yelled at for someone else's anxiety.I heard my mom and dad moving stuff around the house to get ready for my nieces and my sister/brother in law who are visiting tomorrow. And i could tell my dad was anxious and he yells at my mom “talk already” like he does with me when i struggle to put my thoughts into words or to put thoughts together on the spot. my mom doesn’t have asperger’s but still i hate him taking out his untreated anxiety on us. my mom just takes it :/ and she just tells me there is nothing we can do just as i tell her about him not closing the door or washing his hands
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After a very messy move, six months later, I'm trying to face clearing through more papers. These papers involve my grandmother (who passed away last year, the reason I moved here) and my mother (who is in the nursing home). I can't leave the papers unsorted, but I literally get anxious even thinking about it. I just want peace.