i'm somewhat conflicted, I made a post on fb about my "autism spectrum" and it basically described how I can appear to be "high functioning" on the surface, when in reality that just means I'm really good at masking and I actually struggle way way more than people do (hence why I really don't like functioning labels, because it allows people to incorrectly assume that I don't struggle as much as someone who is "low functioning"). and ofc my cousin had to comment (the one whom I I mentioned before about them being transphobic) and he was like "don't label yourself, we're all human and we all have strengths and weaknesses" and blah blah. I thanked him for the comment because I know he's just trying to help, but I explained that I would rather have a label that I'm comfortable with and allows me to understand my limitations, than not have one and wonder to myself why I'm so stupid because there are some things I just can't do because of my disability.
the reason why I'm conflicted is that one of my friends on there (whom I just recently met, and is also trans and autistic) replied to his comment and basically said something like "you're being ableist." I feel bad bc I really don't like starting arguments with people on fb, especially those who tend to be close minded and/or outspoken. I didn't even read my cousin's reply to him because I don't want to dwell on it forever and make myself feel bad. so while I lowkey hate that he made that comment, I'm also really glad that he took up for me because sometimes I feel like my family doesn't understand why I struggle so much and they think everything is easy and that I'm just being lazy or irresponsible. idk I think sometimes they really do just need to be put in their place and try to understand better what my struggles and limitations are before giving me advice.