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What's Bothering You?

Been feeling really AITA type of mood because at the beginning of the year, I decided I’d stop chasing down my friends. I was always the one to start conversations. I always tried to initiate activities for us to do. (Mind, this all snowballed at the end of last year when me and my [long distance] gf broke up; I’d tried multiple times to get her to do things with me. I’d say we should call each other, stream a movie, play a game, etc; she’d always say that it sounded fun, but never planned anything with me, but then she’d go out and do those things with her other friends online. This was over the course of a year of us dating and I was in tears by the end LMAO anyway) I’ve had plenty of other friends do this on a smaller level, so it led to me finally saying that if they wanted to talk to me, they’d contact me, and I shouldn’t have to do it all the time.

Anyway, they haven’t contacted me and I’ve actually felt great not having to worry about trying so gd hard for people?? Like. A sigh of relief. But the lingering AITA strikes now and again when I’m lonely and there’s no one to talk to… like… is this petty? Should I keep those friends in my life just to say I have ‘em? I dunno. Friend/relationships are hard sobs

oh my god this is so long i don't ever post in this section of forum im sorry
youre not the a-hole, believe me. i did the same thing and my friends just ignored me for months until i saw them and they got angry that i wasnt contacting them and where was i and i was like "why havent you contacted me if you cared so much" friendship shouldnt be a one sided thing, both people should reach out to one another and care
 
The heat down here is stupid...

We got a feels like temperature 114F today. It's almost 9PM and it's still ridiculously hot.

I hate summer with a burning passion.
 
A "friend" started saying rude things about me to my other good friend. It wouldn't really bother me that much, but she's so fake to me I was kinda surprised by how she thought of me.

It was kind of obvious that she didn't really think of me as a friend, but I guess I just tried to ignore it. I need to stop trusting people.
 
youre not the a-hole, believe me. i did the same thing and my friends just ignored me for months until i saw them and they got angry that i wasnt contacting them and where was i and i was like "why havent you contacted me if you cared so much" friendship shouldnt be a one sided thing, both people should reach out to one another and care
I'm sorry your friends did that 😔 but yeah, actually taking the time to give a crap is my prerogative... Although it doesn't really make it less upsetting when you pull away bc of it, huh 😅
 
Hey, can you explain what that means? If it's what I think it is, should I be worried about it, as I open my island for people here on tbt sometimes?
I wouldn't worry about it here. Other places are less moderated. So if I open up for a diy giveaway, someone can post the code on a yet another site saying I have good turnip prices, or they can pick my flowers, ect.
 
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i'm too lonely
i eat too much junk because i constantly need comfort food
i look like an 11 year old
why haven't i been concentrating well in class this semester
i'm too short for my age
how come i get all the leftovers from everyone else
why do i have to be called small constantly when i've told them repeatedly to stop

why do i exist?
 
I was just scrolling through the thread, but one of the pop-up ads I see is bothering me. "No-fee student loans"? HA! Suck my ass, man. No one's that generous.
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i'm too lonely
i eat too much junk because i constantly need comfort food
i look like an 11 year old
why haven't i been concentrating well in class this semester
i'm too short for my age
how come i get all the leftovers from everyone else
why do i have to be called small constantly when i've told them repeatedly to stop

why do i exist?

Yo, you wanna just chat for a bit? Not sure if you're still online, but send me a message. We can just chat c:
 
I just got a rather rude anonymous message on Tumblr from someone moaning that my fashion posts are too repetitive.

Errrm... hello! We're in the middle of a pandemic and many designers aren't releasing new collections because they're busying helping out their countries by making face masks and PPE for hospitals. Plus public events like Paris Fashion Week have become a virtual event for designers who are releasing much smaller collections because award shows and red carpet events aren't happening either. I swear some people need to get a reality check and realise what's going on in the world and that I can't magic new fashion collections out of thin air to keep them happy every time they visit my blog.

Okay rant over.
 
i'm too lonely
i eat too much junk because i constantly need comfort food
i look like an 11 year old
why haven't i been concentrating well in class this semester
i'm too short for my age
how come i get all the leftovers from everyone else
why do i have to be called small constantly when i've told them repeatedly to stop

why do i exist?
Hey you! You are so not alone in all of these things!. So first, you feel lonely but you have us! I promise you are not in any of this alone. I've gained 15lbs since last March beginning of covid because I have zero desire to eat healthy. Junk tastes better and is so much easier and quicker and makes me feel better and I love baked ziti but noodles ok not the best if you don't want to gain weight. So you look 11. Thats great genes! I've always looked super young. 35 still fighting acne and 4'11". Everyone thinks I'm 17 ( I have had 5 kids so imagine their faces when I tell them that haha!) Get hardly any respect from strangers at first because of it but I actually am glad that I'm hardly aging at all so when I'm 70 I'm gonna look 50. Thats a win. Maybe not at your age now it doesn't feel like a win but it will be something you appreciate later. One thing I've always hated about being the tiny girl is the need for every somewhat tall person to use my head as an arm rest. Listen guys. No one... NO ONE wants their face in your arm pit. Please stop. Despite that, being small isn't a curse. We are just cute and mini size. And everyone loves mini. Mini soda cans, mini stuffed animals, mini puppies, mini sells. Try not to worry. This moment is temporary and everyone is in an even bigger funk right now with everything. I can not imagine trying to pay attention in a class right now with everything that is happening all around us that we have very little control over. It will get better, you just have to hold on. In the meantime, we are here for you! Message me any time!
 
I want to play animal crossing but hesitant to start playing because I know i'll get bored after Isabelle says she found her lucky sock in the wash.
fr tho Isabelle needs to stfu



I can't get myself to do any cleaning today because I'm just so tired and overwhelmed. I also keep devaluating my emotions and calling myself lazy and dumb for not doing any cleaning :,,,,,(
 
I texted my boss about staying home today (because of the weather), and he never responded to me. So...I stayed home. Lol. I'm really not trying to be out later when this storm gets worse. The timing of this snow was perfectly awkward for me, since it started a little before I would normally go in...and I know it's supposed to be bad later (it's already pretty bad). So...yeah. He can't really be angry with me since he didn't answer me at all. *shrug*
 
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